"Relationships don’t create happiness, they reflect it. Relationships are simply the mirrors of your happiness; they reflect it and help you celebrate it. Most people enter into relationships with an eye toward what they can get out of them, rather than what they can put into them. Nobody will fix your life or make you feel special if you are not able to give that to yourself first." ~ Karina Loureiro
Everything in life starts with you.
We tend to look outside for love and security.
We are love.
We have abundance of love to give.
We need to start with ourselves first.
Why is this so hard for so many to wrap their brain around?
I'll say, "Fall in love with yourself!"
All roads lead back to YOU.
We put emphasis on the fear that we are not enough and that we won't be loved.
Truth is, if YOU love yourself first, then the pieces fall into place.
Now, don't get me wrong here.
We THINK the pieces are already in place.
We THINK we are with the right person who appreciates us.
And some of you very well may be.
This is not me bashing or trashing the sanctity of that.
To the contrary . . .
I am in admiration of those of you who are working at feeding and nuturing your relationships everyday.
Whatever the relationship.
Many people have been looking for love to compensate for a self-love deficit.
What others say and do is often based entirely on their own self-reflection.
A wise woman I recently befriended here in LA, my dear Cindy, told me that the things that others do that 'bother' me, is a gift.
A gift to myself.
We see ourselves in others.
The good and the bad.
I now look at all of those 'circumstances' differently.
I turn them in to opportunities to turn inward to ask: "what is it in me that this [whatever-the-behavior] is creating this reaction in me?"
I will say its mostly the behaviors that just piss me off!
When I'm losing my mind at the actions of others!
That was NOT sitting well with me!
I don't want to be this person!
We are all a 'work in progress'.
Not too long ago I didn't think this was anything TO look at in myself.
Hmmmm . . . .
How's that workin for ya, Lucia?
Those of you who know me well know that I can lose my shit the most while driving.
Not road rage, just complete and utter frustration that people do NOT pay attention! (I'm planning on recording myself on a drive one day . . . so stay tuned! I will share it on YouTube! This will be my next step in awareness. To be the observer in my life! I will probably cringe – big time!)
This has to stop.
After I feel what comes up . . . I lose my shit . . . then I'm remorseful about my behavior.
Not a great pattern. It is a pattern that can EASILY transfer to another.
This has to stop.
So, if people happen FOR you not TO you.
Then it needs to go THROUGH you in order to make change happen.
Here's the simple formula:
Thinking creates Emotion. . .
Emotion creates Actions. . .
Actions create the Results.
That's why I ask the question, "How's that workin for ya?"
Not in judgement.
You answer the question.
Maybe it IS workin for ya!
Just be honest.
Really honest with yourself.
Because your Soul knows the truth.
If you are not living the life you want to live and have the relationships you want to love and be in a job or carrer that brings you life. . . and whatever else you've been post-poning. . . ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Everyone is responsible for themselves.
Man in the mirror! (Thank you Michael!)
If everyone would just remember that . . . wouldn't that picture be different in the world.
My offer, my desire to help, is always FOR you!
It is because I have done the work. I continue to do the work for myself.
In my opinion, you cannot ask someone to do something you haven't done yourself.
It cannot be 'do as I say, not as I do' work.
It comes THROUGH me. TO and FOR you.
You are the leading character of your life, and I, the supporting role!
Just raise your hand - so to speak.
I will do this work with you.
Help you through the work that will transform you and set you free.
Maybe its just to change the way you are looking at your current life to feel differently about it and therefore act differently to get a different result!
Start living the life you will love living.
No smoke and mirrors.
Burn the boats!
It's you who will be found.
If you have to . . . .do it afraid.
That will change too.
Just decide and let's do this!
Make the decision that will move you forward.
Click 'Contact' and reach out to me. We'll get on a call and figure it all out.