Hello, you beautiful willing spirit you!
Have you ever felt really down about someone or something in your life and someone told you "let it go" or “think positively” and it will all be better?
I'm sure you could feel the irritation well up inside you when they told you this 'duh' obvious!
Of course we all know people who have told others to just “let it go", "get over it already" or . . . you fill in the blanks! These comments were likely good-intentioned, but missed the mark.
HOW do we get to the other side when we are feeling completely the opposite?
The key to feeling good is to DECIDE to stop feeling bad. It can be as simple and profound as that!
But HOW do I do that, you ask.
Some of you may be saying...
"I have tough circumstances at the moment! I have an illness....I just suffered a loss....I had a situation that came and it rocked my world! I feel bad! I can't see how to feel good about any of this!"
For some of you, feeling good may seem like an unrealistic jump.
But this is when we need to shift the most!
These situations arise in our life to give us a chance to take a different path. A different approach. To think of things in a different way. And I believe the harder the circumstances, the greater the shift in the way I feel about my life.
If you always do what you always do, you always get what you always got!
Start by reaching for a better feeling each SECOND so that you can create a different momentum rather than the momentum of the fear you have about that situation or circumstance. Likely there is a nugget or two of fear attached to it. Otherwise we WOULD feel good.
Perhaps we could look at this simple and kind. Kind to ourselves to feel differently about a thing.
"When you acknowledge what you do not want, and then ask yourself, "What is it that I do want?" you begin a gradual shift into the telling of your new story and into a much-improved point of attraction. You get the essence of what you think about - whether you want it or not - because Law of Attraction is unerringly consistent - therefore, you are never only telling the story of "how it is now." You are also telling the future experience that you are creating right now." --Abraham Hicks
One of the big things I have taken away from Abraham-Hicks is the explanation of the “Emotional Guidance Scale.”
The emotional guidance scale is a scale of our feelings and emotions, in sequence from our highest vibrational feelings to our lowest.
Abraham Hicks uses an Emotional Guidance Scale to help with understanding how to create a different [good] feeling. And when you check out the scale, it will make total sense! (It may not be easy, but it doesn't have to feel hard! The payoff will be priceless.)
Below is the Abraham-Hicks emotional guidance scale. Use it is to identify where you are emotionally at the moment.
As Abraham explains, to “raise your vibration” it is easiest to travel through the emotions from one to the next, rather than try to leap all the way to the top.
For example, if you were to be feeling pessimistic, it would be easier to achieve a vibration that resonated at boredom than it would to shoot all the way to feeling joyful and empowered. From boredom you could then reach for contentment, then hopefulness, and then continue all the way up one step at a time.
Are you resonating at a high vibration and therefore feeling joy and empowerment, or are you a little lower down on this list?
Your emotions always provide you with clues to let you know what kind of energy you are projecting.
Here are 22 [some] of our most felt emotions, and as you can see on the scale, the higher up, the happier, and of course, the lower on the scale, the more unhappy.
Find the emotion where you are at the moment. Then speak and think yourself up the scale. . . one emotion at the time. [Sometimes you can even jump a few emotions up on the scale at once!]
Joy/Appreciation/Empowered/Freedom/Love
Passion
Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness
Positive Expectation/Belief
Optimism
Hopefulness
Contentment
Boredom
Pessimism
Frustration/Irritation/Impatience
Overwhelm
Disappointment
Doubt
Worry
Blame
Discouragement
Anger
Revenge
Hatred/Rage
Jealousy
Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness
Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness
From the book “Ask and It is Given,” by Esther & Jerry Hicks
An example:
Let's say you feel “depressed” (emotion #22).
To improve your emotion would not be to jump up to #1 all at once! In fact, it would be very hard to do that!
Using this scale, you could think thoughts that create feelings of perhaps “guilt” (emotion #21) within you.
Stay there for a while until you really feel it. . .
Then climb higher up.
Maybe now you can create feelings of “anger” (emotion # 17) within your thoughts. [This is ONLY an emotional/mental exercise, so there will be no acting out on these emotions to harm anyone!]
The goal is to keep move even higher up on the scale.
Maybe now you can feel “blame” (#15), and then “disappointment” (#12) and so on.
Every emotion moving up is an improvement over the last and you will always want to keep moving upwards towards #1: Joy/Appreciation/Empowered/Freedom/Love.
So instead of trying to “just get over it and be happy”, you are naming your emotions, you are owning them, you are accepting them, and then you are letting them go, one emotion at the time until you feel better.
Work at it so you don't “stay” on the lower part of the emotional scale. See to it that you at least get to number 7.
You can allow yourself to feel differently with the right kind of thoughts.
In the beginning, it helps to speak the words out loud, because that puts more feeling into them and helps you identify what emotion you are feeling.
It is from this emotional well-being state that solutions show up. So, you may have an opportunity to have a better outcome as well! (What if?)
I hope you find the Abraham-Hicks emotional guidance scale useful in helping to identify where you are at vibrationally, and also in helping you raise your vibration gradually and comfortably.
My experience with people who have been desperate for change in their lives has been extraordinary! Yet the overwhelm, for the most part, is in the mechanics of HOW to do it.
Change CAN happen and you are 1000% in the driver's seat to make that change happen for yourself.
I encourage you to take [baby] steps to closing the gap towards that change. It will be a much kinder and proactive way to look at it.
Awareness and naming your emotions is a great first step. It becomes an intimacy with yourself that will prove invaluable. The more fluent you become at your emotional intuition, the more opportunities for you to customize your own 'cocktail' to create the life you want to love living. Stay with it, you absolutely have what it takes to make that happen!
Let me know what you think about this approach as a good first step to becoming aware of your emotions and how you can change the way you think and feel about anything in your life.
I, for one, have put myself on notice.
Notice what I'm thinking.
Notice what I'm feeling.
Notice what meaning I've given each of these experiences. Then to decide how that's workin' for me! If it is not promoting my life's wants and desires, I'm course correcting. I'm also preparing for some deep dives perhaps, but I'm welcoming this intimate look into myself. Who I am now. Who I want to become moving forward.
What has to happen for me to live a more empowered, more enriched life?
I am in control.
I am no longer afraid to make it happen. So I'm showing up to make it happen.
One step at a time promotes the next step.
A step backward is feedback.
Feedback helps the next best thing.
Can I accept myself, UNCONDITIONALLY, right now?
I can.
I will.
Let me know your thoughts by adding your comments below ... or by emailing me...or message me on Facebook... or contact me thru my website... just let me know how you weigh in with this topic!
We are a tribe. We are here for each other. So please share your voice, your stories, your wins and your losses.
We're in this together, and together we will rejoice.
I am not my sister's keeper, I am my sister.
Much love,
Lucia